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Some people like constant change. They never want to know what’s going to happen next. To them, doing the same thing twice reeks of boredom. Only high adrenaline experiences have value. Security is for suckers. If this describes you, skip this blog post. But if you feel beset by too much change or would like some certainty in you life, at least for a while, read on.
Choosing to Confront Insecurity
Let’s get right to the heart of the matter. You don’t feel insecure when confronted with minor challenges. As well, you feel secure when faced with serious problem as long as you know how to deal with them. Security vanishes when you feel ill-equipped to face a major change or hurdle in your life.
To feel secure, you must have confidence in your ability to handle major transitions. There are two ways to achieve this:
- Avoid significant change.
- Consciously deal with feeling insecure.
Before you scoff at people who choose option one consider this. There are many ways to avoid facing challenges. One is to choose to do so. This may work for a while. But our lives have to change. So even in the face of necessity, many choose avoidance.
People fool themselves into thinking they are confronting a problem when in reality they aren’t. Some focus on tasks they’re comfortable doing even though those tasks don’t help them progress. Others change what they’re doing, but only at the margins. They get their “fix” by making a small alteration and convince themselves it’s enough. Inevitably they’ll feel insecure again. So they make another minor change. They never commit to transformation and don’t acclimate to their new circumstances. Security eludes them.
Turning Uncertainty into Security
Security and courage are connected. Yet many people who will confront an armed enemy in battle lack the bravery to deal with their own shortcomings. When faced with having to make a life transition, they are paralyzed. They won’t come to grips with the need for significant change. They’re plunged into perpetual insecurity.
Instead, make a candid, gut wrenching self–assessment. How prepared are you to handle the major challenge you face? Ask yourself these questions:
- Do you have the knowledge, training, and experience to succeed in your new circumstances? Really?
- Did the training you received actually prepare you for all the hurdles you face? Was it rigorous enough to teach you how to overcome barriers no matter their size?
- Have you made the transformation that gives you confidence to KNOW you will succeed?
When faced with a major transition in life, changes at the margin will not get you through. Attempting to overcome significant challenges without the proper tools leads to failure. Too many setbacks sap confidence. Without this indispensable ingredient, security will remain illusive.
Fooling yourself into feeling secure for short periods of time by getting a quick “fix” from minor change leads to long-term insecurity. Get solid training. Find a qualified mentor. Being properly equipped to confront change will allow you to feel secure even in the midst of a major transition.
How do you prepare for significant changes in your life? Please comment below.
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