And Pharaoh said to Josef, “after G-d made known to you all of this, there is no one discerning and wise like you. You will be over my house . . .” (Beresheis/Genesis 41:39).
With just one conversation the slave Josef, a prisoner, is elevated to Viceroy of Egypt. How can such a thing happen?
This coming Sabbath we read Parshas Mikeitz. In it we learn about Pharaoh’s dreams and Josef’s interpretation of them and his ascent to Viceroy of Egypt. Next the famine begins, resulting in Jacob sending ten of his sons to Egypt to buy food. They meet Josef, but do not recognize him and the process is set in motion through which Josef’s dreams will come true.
It probably comes as no surprise that convicts released from prison have a hard time finding work, especially at jobs requiring a high degree of trust. Yet the absolute ruler of Egypt promotes Josef to the number two position of power after just one interview. Granted he acknowledged his wisdom and discernment but how could Pharaoh have had such confidence in Josef?
Rabbi Chaim Shmuelivitz notes that before interpreting Pharaoh’s dreams Josef acknowledges his own lack of power, attributing his gift to G-d. From this minor point Pharaoh extrapolated Josef’s total honesty.
Later in the parsha (Beresheis/Genesis 42:21), not knowing that Josef understood what they were saying, his brothers admitted to each other that they were guilty of causing Josef to suffer. Their honesty caused Josef to move away from them so they would not see him weeping.
These examples of the impact of honesty are models that you should adopt. If you see a paltry instance of good in a person, you can help build up the person’s self image by giving positive feedback and highlighting other positive examples, however small. Indeed there are people, even counselors, who seem to think there is great merit in focusing on a person’s faults. But virtually every fault can be viewed meritoriously. This is how the Almightly would have us relate to each other.
Most especially when we have been wronged, may we join the Master of the World weeping with joy upon hearing the contrition of the wrongdoer.
Question – How do you reframe a person’s behavior so as to judge it praiseworthy? Please leave a comment below.